Dear Yuliya
I'm a lady in a committed monogamous relationship with a gentlemen. We have both been tested for everything possible and no longer use condoms. I take Orthotricyclen every night at around the same hour as directed. However, I forgot to take my pill two nights in a row! Durrr! We have not had sex for maybe 4 or 5 days, however, so all I want to know is how long I should wait?
I do not want TEH BABIES!
Dear I do not want TEH BABIES,
Take your next pill as soon as is possible, along with yesterday's pill. Do not take more than 2 pills at a time. Throw away the other one you missed. Then, it depends on which week of your pills you are on. Most people seem to recommend waiting for 7 days, and if you are on the third week of the cycle, to skip the week of placebo pills and just continue on to the next pack. I'd wait until your period, just in case. If you are in your third week when you forget some pills, then go ahead and start the next pack instead of the placebo, but be warned that with a tri-phasic birth control pill you will likely have breakthrough bleeding. I'd recommend waiting until you're a week into your next pack to start penis-in-vagina sex.
This question actually brings me to one of my favorite things to talk about, though - the many fun things you can do that do not involve penis-in-vagina! Intimacy is many many things and there seems to be somewhat of an over-emphasis on PIV. Some people even call PIV the only "real" sex. You and your partner can enjoy each others' sexuality without it, when something like a missed birth control pill throws you off. There is oral sex, anal sex (if you are into that sort of thing), manual stimulation, mutual masturbation, heck even regular masturbation next to each other, sex toys, and whatever else your imagination may come up with! This might be a good time to just explore each other and come up with new erogenous zones. This is a time for play!
Showing posts with label toys for big people. Show all posts
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4/24/2007
2/07/2007
Toys - easy and complicated
Today I have a couple of toy questions - one that many can relate to, and one a bit more advanced. Not everyone uses toys in their sex lives, but they can certainly bring a bit of extra fun to the bedroom, whether you are alone or with a partner(s).
So, without further ado, question 1 - I am in the market for a strap-on, but don't know what to buy! Where do I start? What brands are good and why?
Well first, my dear friend, you should narrow your search down a bit. Are you going to be using the strap-on for anal play or vaginal or both? What size do you want it? Realistic looking or more creative? Since you are asking specifically for a strap-on, you will need to get a harness and make sure the dildo you choose has a flared base. This actually comes in handy if you want to do anal play as well - don't want it to get lost in there!
As far as materials go, I recommend a silicone dildo for ease of use - it is easily cleaned by boiling, or even throwing it into the dishwasher. Toys in Babeland has a lovely variety of just such things. I recommend going to the store, or a similar store near you, so that you can feel them with your own hands and get an idea of what they look like and how they feel. Your friendly sex shop employee may even allow you to try them on (over your clothes, for now.) Just remember to use lots of lube, wherever our little friend will be going.
Now, the question for our more advanced players - How long can you leave nipple clamps on before you risk losing a nip?
First, a word about nipple clamps themselves - make sure that you choose ones either specifically designed for the purpose of use on a body (here are some good examples), or if you use a household item like a clothespin, make sure the clamping will be bearable and that there are no sharp cutting edges or splinters. A test you can use to gauge clamping strength is to pinch the bit of skin between thumb and fingers with the item and see how it feels.
It seems that most BDSM folks recommend that a nipple clamp not be left on a tight setting more than 15-20 minutes. If you are going to use nipple clamps on other parts of the body like thighs or buttocks, the clamps may stay on for a bit longer. You should experiment on yourself before putting anything on your lover/partner. Play safe and pay attention to your partner(s).
So, without further ado, question 1 - I am in the market for a strap-on, but don't know what to buy! Where do I start? What brands are good and why?
Well first, my dear friend, you should narrow your search down a bit. Are you going to be using the strap-on for anal play or vaginal or both? What size do you want it? Realistic looking or more creative? Since you are asking specifically for a strap-on, you will need to get a harness and make sure the dildo you choose has a flared base. This actually comes in handy if you want to do anal play as well - don't want it to get lost in there!
As far as materials go, I recommend a silicone dildo for ease of use - it is easily cleaned by boiling, or even throwing it into the dishwasher. Toys in Babeland has a lovely variety of just such things. I recommend going to the store, or a similar store near you, so that you can feel them with your own hands and get an idea of what they look like and how they feel. Your friendly sex shop employee may even allow you to try them on (over your clothes, for now.) Just remember to use lots of lube, wherever our little friend will be going.
Now, the question for our more advanced players - How long can you leave nipple clamps on before you risk losing a nip?
First, a word about nipple clamps themselves - make sure that you choose ones either specifically designed for the purpose of use on a body (here are some good examples), or if you use a household item like a clothespin, make sure the clamping will be bearable and that there are no sharp cutting edges or splinters. A test you can use to gauge clamping strength is to pinch the bit of skin between thumb and fingers with the item and see how it feels.
It seems that most BDSM folks recommend that a nipple clamp not be left on a tight setting more than 15-20 minutes. If you are going to use nipple clamps on other parts of the body like thighs or buttocks, the clamps may stay on for a bit longer. You should experiment on yourself before putting anything on your lover/partner. Play safe and pay attention to your partner(s).
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